Although it seems like a lifetime away, a good part of who I “am” was formed in the small-town South Dakota setting where I grew up. The people that surrounded me were caring and loving, and life felt simple (or so I believe it was). In high school I played sports, dated girls, and tried my best to be a “guys guy”. I succeeded outwardly but not inwardly. I knew I was gay from the moment I hit puberty. It took me until I was out of South Dakota and a young adult to embrace being gay.
Following College I moved to Atlanta to start my career as a Civil Engineer in the field of Water Resources. Atlanta was and continues to be a beautiful and fast growing City (a gay mecca for the southern U.S.). I lived there from the late 80s through to 2001. My best friends still live there, although I am happy to say that I have great friends across not only the U.S. but across the world.
In 2001 I moved to California. I always wanted to live in or near San Francisco, and knew that the timing was right to pick up stakes. Following a short stop in Sacramento, I found myself in Berkeley (a City located in the East Bay portion of metropolitan San Francisco). I fell in love with the setting, the people, the lifestyle that Berkeley has to offer. As a community, it is one of the most tolerant and loving in the world (let alone the U.S.). Conservatives have named the City “Bezerkely” because to them we are bezerk (crazy, as in crazy liberal). That is me, a happy, crazy liberal who embraces people for their differences and the loves them for being willing to express themselves).
So present day, I have a great job developing water supply projects to meet the needs of the bay area, have a wonderful home and a true friend in my dog (who happens to be right by my side as I type this biography). What is missing is someone to share my life with. Not just a someone, but a person that is loving and trustful but also has the ability to be my sexual equal (a devil inside and out). I am going to take some time finding that someone (I am in no rush).
Former Lovers and What I Look For in a Man:
I’ve had a wonderful love life. There have been few times in my life when I wasn’t dating. Further, the bulk of those years were spent in committed relationships. Starting in around 1989, I was in a 3 year relationship with a great guy I am still friends with. In 1994 I began a relationship with a man that lasted until mid last year. We are still friends, but the relationship ended (simply put, we grew apart sexually over the years, and it became clear to both of us that there was no point pretending otherwise). During the one or two years I simply was dating, I dated guys Los Angeles, Montreal, Phoenix, and Miami. I loved traveling and the dating was light hearted and fun (for both me and the fellows I was seeing).
Since my recent break up, I have been rediscovering who I am as a man. While I don’t wish to sound selfish, in 2011 I plan on dating and not entering into a long-term commitment. I want to take the time to get to know “me” again before I commit. I plan on traveling quite a bit, and if any of you feel so inclined I’d love to have you contact me and suggest places to visit.
I don’t have a set type of man I am attracted to, but generally speaking you should be fit. I do not smoke and am a light drinker (not a partier), I’d want you to be similar. I like guys with facial hair and age wise am attracted to mid-30s through to late 50s. If they have a swagger about them I am even more attracted. I like masculine, confident men. Also, I want a guy who has a high sex drive.
Sexually speaking, 70% of the time I am a top, and hence if you are a top 90% of the time we likely would not be the best fit. Be versatile, or a bottom. Further, you must like sex and like talking dirty in bed (I am not a cold fish in bed, I am verbal, aggressive, and dominant). I want you to be horny for me, and I like free reign to show physical affection and lust toward you - even if it is a public setting like a grocery store. I realize that here in San Francisco being gay and out is easy, however. Simply put, be prepared to be with someone who likes sex, likes to take control and will direct you sexually.
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